An interesting nugget I found on social media a few days ago was a post by a White man on Black society. This guy, who claimed to be an anti-Trump, pro-abortion, male feminist liberal who was all for LGBT rights, wrote that while he loved Black people and counted many as friends, he really had a loathing for Black culture, Black English, Black hip hop music,and Black ‘ghetto behavior’. Does this sound like someone who appreciates Black people to you? Actually, the guy came across as a racist. I wondered if he felt the same way about Asians and Latinos, Muslims, Jews, and Wiccans.
Commentators wholeheartedly agreed that the guy was racist. After all, how can you say you like any group of people, yet condemn the very attributes that make them who and what they are? It is quite obvious to me that most White Americans have a hatred for Black culture, though you will catch some of them listening to hip hop or R&B, laughing their flat asses off at Black comedy, and even trying to appropriate Black styles, such as using hip hop slang, urban dance – which they usually fail at miserably – and Black clothing fads. (I saw FUBU hats, shoes, and jackets on various White guys in Vienna, Austria during a trip through Europe in 2001. I also saw the Confederate flag for sale in the same city.)
I don’t hear or see the same attitudes against other minorities the way I do Blacks, except Muslims and Hispanics. Muslims in particular have been drawing ire from all types of people, but Muslims are not a race, they are a religious group just like the Jews (whom I also see bigoted remarks against on social media lately). Hispanics also get some hateful comments, especially in regards to illegal aliens, but Asians rarely get attacked – except for dog eating, wanting to rule the world, and being made of due to speaking poor English. I always see the same tired old nasty remarks about Blacks: how loud, rude, and violent we are; how we have several kids by as many ‘baby mamas’ or ‘baby daddies’; how we are dumb, ghetto, and have the craziest ‘made up’ names…the list could go on and on.
How many times must a group of people be gunned down, ridiculed, openly discriminated against, and told constantly that they are inferior, before they start banding together and rising up to fight their oppressors? It is happening now with Black Lives Matter. This is why White people fear it and hate it so much. They cannot stand to see people of color in solidarity, and it really makes their blood boil if their fellow Whites are involved. (Race traitors, those people are called.) They are frightened of this. They do not want to see it. This is why they had to get Trump into the White House, no matter what.
I am engaged to a White man who, while he did not vote for Trump, wholly supported him and he is always going on about the ‘great’ things Trump has done, and is doing, and will do, to make America ‘great’ again. I gave up correcting him on his delusions because it was always a waste of my time and breath and emotions, as I inevitably got angry over his insistence that what Trump was doing was so good. A couple of days ago, he mentioned that Trump and his family have been the most despised ever to live in the White House – and all I could do was laugh. Say what? Come again? Who had the ‘monkey’ memes, the ‘nigger’ memes, the ‘whore’ memes, the ‘ugly’ memes, the ‘house negro’ memes, and the ‘Muslim’ memes created and bandied about through all 8 years of his presidency? Honkey, please! Don’t give me that shit.
As a typical White male with all the privileges afforded one of his skin color, my fiance cries ‘racism’ whenever a Black person doesn’t kiss up to him whether it’s at a grocery store, a dollar store, a gas station, wherever. Black people are racist as hell, he’s got the nerve to say – though I have never heard one refer to him as a ‘cracker’ except once, a woman who lives down the street from us and hates dogs (this is one reason he called her racist, not because she’d called him out of his name because at that time, she hadn’t). The other day, a Black man working in an Asian-owned convenience store/gas station wouldn’t take his 38 cents worth of pennies; The guy told him it was against store policy, my fiance stated it’s because of his Trump hat. (He also has a Trump – Pence bumper sticker on his van.)
If Black people are rude to White people, maybe it’s because of all those decades of being made to feel lower than a dog turd on the pavement by Whites under Jim Crow and White supremacy. Or it might be due to the White person’s own bad manners. As a cashier, I was as polite as I could be and generally, people were polite in return. I’d say my worst customers were younger Black females and non-English speaking Hispanics, who would just look at you and hold out money or something. Most men were polite to me, no matter their color, but that might have been the result of something else. I found the non-Southern sounding Whites to be the most well mannered of customers. Honestly!
In closing, I think it is very difficult for most people to be true friends with someone of another race. It is like an animal instinct, like goes with like – you don’t see cheetahs mixing with lions, although people took that majestic beast and bred it with the equally magnificent tiger to create a ‘liger’ (there are also tigons). People – usually White racists – use the Bible, a large volume of fables and other tales – to prove their belief that miscegenation is a sin. While I can understand why they would want to believe such, I don’t believe anything from the Bible, I consider myself agnostic bordering on atheist, and people can do whatever the hell they want. My fiance does love me, despite his issues with foreign people (he truly hates Muslims and Asian Indians, and doesn’t care much for Latinos either, even though he loves tacos and other Mexican foods), and I do love him, even though I’d like to kill him at times.
But I still don’t trust his family and I prefer not to be around them. They are redneck white trash to me and being married to him won’t ever change my feelings about those low class people. I’ll never be his mother’s friend, that’s for damn sure.