There’s this Great Debate going on that homosexuals choose their lifestyle. Then there are those that believe gays are ‘born that way’ – and in 2015, a new study of male twins (10 pairs that were both gay, and 37 pairs that were of one gay and one straight twin) revealed that a chemical modification to the DNA may be responsible.
What this means for religious fanatics who claim that God can cure homosexuality I don’t know, but I do know that it validates my own beliefs that gays are just ‘that way’ and really can’t help themselves. It is how they were born. Surely, if God holds that being gay is a sin, He wouldn’t allow people to be born like that. Or would He? Of course, Christians – and possibly others – state that we are all ‘born in sin’ to start, so I guess it wouldn’t be unreasonable to assume that the Moral Minority would say that a person could actually be born gay.
I do know this – those memes you see going about on the Internet accusing single Black mothers of raising swishy Black sons is wrong. There is no proof anywhere that being raised by a single mom will mean the son will turn out queer. My brother certainly didn’t, and he had no really good male role models during his formative years other than my younger sister’s father, who passed away a few years ago from cancer. He was the only man who was there for my brother and me, and I hated my mother when she broke off the years-long relationship to begin dating a drunkard nearly a decade her junior.
There is an article on the Psychology Today site that also attempts to prove if homosexuality is learned behavior, or simply an imbalance that affects the Y chromosome, some sort of abnormal reaction by the mother’s immune system during the development of the fetus. However, an article on the US News site presents a different finding: when babies that wind up gay are in gestation, they receive epi-marks that either cause masculinization of females, or feminization of males, or at least that is my understanding.
One questionable site I discovered while researching this perplexing social problem is Conservapedia which claims that the reasons for homosexuality ‘are attributable to man’s sinful nature, nurture and environment, and personal choice’. It further states that among Orthodox Jews, a traditionally very religious group, homosexuality is very rare. Also from the site I found these explanations:
In his 1980 work Overcoming Homosexuality, Robert Kronemeyer writes: “With rare exceptions, homosexuality is neither inherited nor the result of some glandular disturbance or the scrambling of genes or chromosomes. Homosexuals are made, not born ‘that way.’ I firmly believe that homosexuality is a learned response to early painful experiences and that it can be unlearned. For those homosexuals who are unhappy with their life and find effective therapy, it is ‘curable.
Based upon his work with 200 male homosexuals, Gerard van den Aardweg stated that 79 percent described their mother as “overanxious”, or “overconcerned” about them; their safety, health, and being overly sentimental when they met with some hardship, as well as manifesting other aspects of over-mothering. In addition, in 71 percent of homosexual cases, “the most important factor was the father’s detachedness or nonparticipation in the son’s upbringing. The fathers of 38 percent of the men were so hypercritical that the sons were made to feel either rejected and/or inferior.
Another study of about 1500 homosexuals showed much less influence by the mother, while far more reported an unaffectionate or detached father, and approximately half of homosexuals reported they had negative feelings toward their fathers, versus 29 percent of heterosexuals.
Whatever it is that causes homosexuality, I am so damned glad, so grateful, I never got that disease. I may have my issues, especially as far as depression is concerned but at least my sexuality is normal!